I hope this finds each of you fulfilled after a happy holiday season. My family and I just returned from 10 days in Florida visiting grandparents. We enjoyed the warmth of the sunshine and the presence of family. Now we head back to Boise to enjoy the winter white landscape and close out 2017. The end of the year is a wonderful time for reflection. This is also the time of year people create “resolutions” for the year ahead. I personally do not believe in “resolutions”. I believe in setting intentions for the year ahead. I do this after much reflection of the previous year and finding patterns in areas in my life I want to embrace more and areas in my life I could shift direction.
Growing up my family had a tradition that rather than resolutions, we chose one word to set an intention for the New Year. So for example, I have picked words such as balance, patience, adventure, growth, and patience and balance again and again 🙂 Isn’t that what we typically all need more of in our lives?!?! One year in my teens I chose the word “fun”. I am pretty sure I was not lacking fun at that time in my life, which I suppose signifies the importance I place on incorporating fun in your life! I might have to reincorporate this word back into the mix. You are never too old for more fun!
This year I have chosen the word: ACCEPTANCE
ACCEPTANCE of myself and others
ACCEPTANCE of uncertainty and discomfort I may feel
ACCEPTANCE of inevitable change
ACCEPTANCE of changes personally and professionally
ACCEPTANCE of what I have in my life and what I cannot change
And my mantra will continue to be my intention:
Be kind to myself and others
Be patient with myself and others
So whether you set intentions or a single word, or both I encourage you to do so with thought, reflection, growth, and positivity as a foundation. Often times people look in the past with regret. “I wish I would have….” Or “I wish I had not….” I talk to clients about not living with regret. The best way to cure regret is to change the behaviors or mindsets that created regret. Change is scary and messy at times. But it is also inevitable and necessary. Change = GROWTH. So as you consider what you want to change and add more of into your new year, do so with courage, kindness and openness. And continue this process throughout the year, not just at the beginning. Write it down. Come back to it. Adjust it, practice it, and embrace it!
Happy New Year!